Comments for Ditto Effect http://dittoeffect.com Reflecting Success Thu, 09 Feb 2012 12:20:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 Comment on Q&A: Black boys. Gotta love em. Flirting or culture? by JonnaMamma http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/comment-page-1/#comment-171536 JonnaMamma Thu, 09 Feb 2012 12:20:22 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/#comment-171536 To be honest all dudes are like that to a degree some show it some dont.I think its a combination of how hot u r and how confident the guy is.But all dudes will flirt with an attractive young lady if they're black white whatever.He may genuinely like you even though he has a girl. To be honest all dudes are like that to a degree some show it some dont.I think its a combination of how hot u r and how confident the guy is.But all dudes will flirt with an attractive young lady if they’re black white whatever.He may genuinely like you even though he has a girl.

]]> Comment on Q&A: Black boys. Gotta love em. Flirting or culture? by mcl_8801 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/comment-page-1/#comment-171535 mcl_8801 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 12:05:13 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/#comment-171535 Well I'm a Dominican/Black guy and I think overall black males are faster and more confident to compliment on how a girl looks but it seems he likes you based on what your saying. Note to "Chief" you sound very retarded ,I'm black and am very respectable so don't make racial assumptions. Well I’m a Dominican/Black guy and I think overall black males are faster and more confident to compliment on how a girl looks but it seems he likes you based on what your saying.

Note to “Chief” you sound very retarded ,I’m black and am very respectable so don’t make racial assumptions.

]]> Comment on How long does it take to get diagnosed with depression/social anxiety disorder? by Susas http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171516 Susas Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:27:45 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171516 It depends on the doctor, economics, your geographic location, your ethnicity, and your clinical history. There are many possibilities. Without knowing your situation, I couldn't tell you exactly what to expect. Most people in the U.S. can easily get a prescription for pills from their family doctor without having to do anything except go to the doctor's office. It often takes less than 15 minutes. A few doctors will demand that you see a therapist or psychiatrist. There may be more trouble with insurance than with doctors. Insurance companies will not always pay for all of the possible prescriptions, but they do pay for some that are as effective as those they wont pay for. The prescription medicines you often see on TV can cost $ 300 per month without insurance. Less advertised ones are usually much more affordable ($ 20 or less per month). Usually pills alone will not work, but it is not a bad idea to try them first if you are really suffering. I know that talking about it can be very hard. Good luck. There is another alternative: Electric Convulsion Therapy (formally Electric Shock). You would usually have to see a psychiatrist to receive the treatment, but it usually works and has less side effects than pills. I have had received ECT. Unfortunately, most doctors only recommend it in very severe and chronic cases and it isn't available at many hospitals. It depends on the doctor, economics, your geographic location, your ethnicity, and your clinical history. There are many possibilities. Without knowing your situation, I couldn’t tell you exactly what to expect. Most people in the U.S. can easily get a prescription for pills from their family doctor without having to do anything except go to the doctor’s office. It often takes less than 15 minutes. A few doctors will demand that you see a therapist or psychiatrist. There may be more trouble with insurance than with doctors. Insurance companies will not always pay for all of the possible prescriptions, but they do pay for some that are as effective as those they wont pay for. The prescription medicines you often see on TV can cost $ 300 per month without insurance. Less advertised ones are usually much more affordable ($ 20 or less per month).

Usually pills alone will not work, but it is not a bad idea to try them first if you are really suffering. I know that talking about it can be very hard. Good luck.

There is another alternative: Electric Convulsion Therapy (formally Electric Shock). You would usually have to see a psychiatrist to receive the treatment, but it usually works and has less side effects than pills. I have had received ECT. Unfortunately, most doctors only recommend it in very severe and chronic cases and it isn’t available at many hospitals.

]]> Comment on Q&A: Black boys. Gotta love em. Flirting or culture? by Consistent Knowledge http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/comment-page-1/#comment-171534 Consistent Knowledge Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:20:38 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/#comment-171534 Wow, Izzies, you have some nerve. I'm black and I'm pretty outgoing at times. I don't dress stereotypical either. Wow, Izzies, you have some nerve. I’m black and I’m pretty outgoing at times. I don’t dress stereotypical either.

]]> Comment on How can my friend stop being a shy author? by Arya http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-my-friend-stop-being-a-shy-author/comment-page-1/#comment-171540 Arya Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:56:00 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-my-friend-stop-being-a-shy-author/#comment-171540 First, I am not at all a fan of yuri. I hate it. I understand where your friend is coming from though. When I wrote my first Lord of the Rings fanfic, I was terrified about posting it. Then I just made myself do it. If they like it, they like it. If they don't, I'll take it down. It turned out that people loved it and I have three Lord of the Rings fics going right now and I love posting new fics. So I would advise her to just do it. If people don't like it she can take it down and no one will know about it and those that read it and hated it will probably forget. Chances are, people will love it. First, I am not at all a fan of yuri. I hate it. I understand where your friend is coming from though. When I wrote my first Lord of the Rings fanfic, I was terrified about posting it. Then I just made myself do it. If they like it, they like it. If they don’t, I’ll take it down. It turned out that people loved it and I have three Lord of the Rings fics going right now and I love posting new fics.

So I would advise her to just do it. If people don’t like it she can take it down and no one will know about it and those that read it and hated it will probably forget. Chances are, people will love it.

]]> Comment on How long does it take to get diagnosed with depression/social anxiety disorder? by phillip b http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171515 phillip b Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:51:32 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171515 what is vitally important is to choose your healing route- for this problem ----- carefully from good information—that means knowing druggs/meds treatment for this can/will be damaging to your mind and body .drugs only mask the symptoms they do not cure. This info well –it will save ---years of suffering = if you apply it .. All treatment recommended by the doctors should be tested and approved and quite rightly so. That makes sense It costs millions of pounds to test and approve just one treatment. Drug companies pay for most testing and will only and I mean only look at treatments, which show the promise of good deal of a profit, --they will actively dismiss any therapy which does not have profit potential— thus your doctor will only recommend therapies that have been tested with profit potential in them. Despite The fact that some of these other therapies mentioned below do have overwhelming benefits some, which have saved massive amounts of suffering Drugs are not the answer for any mental illness-- at best they mask symptoms This is a fundamental principle grasp this fully – Have you heard your local doctor recommend, Massage Spiritual healing, reiki Light therapy, Colour therapy, the violet ray therapy, Osteopathy, Electrical Frequency devices. Karma therapy and u wont because no one can put a patent on these powerful therapies . For much more info/ detail and research behind this protocol Go here http://uk.groups.yahoo.com/group/theholistichealingofdepressiongroup/ Upon joining this group you will be sent a file giving the info –or go to the files section within the group and u will see it there Print this all off save it and enact it and share it --- of course someone to help you get these therapies in your life is invaluable but do not be swayed by anyone trying for short cuts … . 1,get someone to massage your back and legs at least 3 times a week use peanut oil or a mix of 50-50 olive and peanut oil. 2 use the violet ray machine an Edgar Cayce device google search this --- 3 times a week on the other days especially on the spine….we use it every day with very positive results 3.get a tent sleep out side 3times a week utilising earth energy - nature can help big time especially with how you feel how much energy you have 4 study and apply good nutrition— adele davis books =protein minerals =iron essential fatty acids omega 3 6 9 protein etc 5 ensure your thyroid is working well get it checked 6 ensure you do at least I hr per day some kind of voluntary work when you are able..the reasons you are ill , or poor or have allsorts of bad things happen to you is because of karma -----usually from past lives but some from this one –voluntary work will offset your mistakes--- how much it offsets well that is down to god and how much you do. Healing us is in direct proportion to the help we give others ie your healing comes with helping others achieve theirs so if people are doing very little in helping others ---they suffer more and longer...and if they are doing a lot they get well faster....so now you know what to do ,,and like a lot of us are already doing being of service. 7 be amongst people who are giving, friendly who have time for you who love you , choose your friends well . choose your company well. 8 get to a place which personally love or like 9 do some work which you like or love 10 ensure you do no acts which hurt or inflict on anyone –don’t want to add to your karma do we !!! 11 spiritual healing and reiki find good therapists who offer this service in your area many spiritualist churches which are all around offer this for free as part of their vocational offerings to the divine. 12 focus your mind - think good positive thoughts, laughter, look at comedy, play good uplifting music, 13 avoid at all costs exposure to violence, murders, suffering ,death ,tragedies, -feed upon good things uplifting things, things that feel like a breath of fresh air.. 14 Positive affirmation- t programme your self in the mirror , thoughts are things words are things actions are things , all have influence, few people realise these things can have an effect on themselves . 15 get a detox ------ toxins can influence how you feel big time 16 hugs get plenty of them in your daily life you would be amazed at how people feel after a few decent hugs.== find a big tree and hug that. . 17 loads of exercise running walking climbing but something which you enjoy 18 light therapy sunshine and vitamin d and ensure water intake 2 litres a day A total cure however is tied up with karma so you can imagine just how important is the voluntary work. The more u do the better u will feel . what is vitally important is to choose your healing route- for this problem —– carefully from good information—that means knowing druggs/meds treatment for this can/will be damaging to your mind and body .drugs only mask the symptoms they do not cure.

This info well –it will save —years of suffering = if you apply it ..

All treatment recommended by the doctors should be tested and approved and quite rightly so.
That makes sense
It costs millions of pounds to test and approve just one treatment.

Drug companies pay for most testing and will only and I mean only look at treatments, which show the promise of good deal of a profit, –they will actively dismiss any therapy which does not have profit potential— thus your doctor will only recommend therapies that have been tested with profit potential in them.

Despite The fact that some of these other therapies mentioned below do have overwhelming benefits some, which have saved massive amounts of suffering

Drugs are not the answer for any mental illness– at best they mask symptoms

This is a fundamental principle grasp this fully –

Have you heard your local doctor recommend, Massage Spiritual healing, reiki Light therapy, Colour therapy, the violet ray therapy, Osteopathy, Electrical Frequency devices. Karma therapy and u wont because no one can put a patent on these powerful therapies .

For much more info/ detail and research behind this protocol
Go here http://uk.groups.yahoo.com/group/theholistichealingofdepressiongroup/
Upon joining this group you will be sent a file giving the info –or go to the files section within the group and u will see it there

Print this all off save it and enact it and share it — of course someone to help you get these therapies in your life is invaluable but do not be swayed by anyone trying for short cuts …
.
1,get someone to massage your back and legs at least 3 times a week use peanut oil or a mix of 50-50 olive and peanut oil.

2 use the violet ray machine an Edgar Cayce device google search this — 3 times a week on the other days especially on the spine….we use it every day with very positive results

3.get a tent sleep out side 3times a week utilising earth energy – nature can help big time especially with how you feel how much energy you have

4 study and apply good nutrition— adele davis books =protein minerals =iron essential fatty acids omega 3 6 9 protein etc

5 ensure your thyroid is working well get it checked

6 ensure you do at least I hr per day some kind of voluntary work when you are able..the reasons you are ill , or poor or have allsorts of bad things happen to you is because of karma —–usually from past lives but some from this one –voluntary work will offset your mistakes— how much it offsets well that is down to god and how much you do. Healing us is in direct proportion to the help we give others ie your healing comes with helping others achieve theirs so if people are doing very little in helping others —they suffer more and longer…and if they are doing a lot they get well faster….so now you know what to do ,,and like a lot of us are already doing being of service.

7 be amongst people who are giving, friendly who have time for you who love you , choose your friends well . choose your company well.

8 get to a place which personally love or like

9 do some work which you like or love

10 ensure you do no acts which hurt or inflict on anyone –don’t want to add to your karma do we !!!

11 spiritual healing and reiki find good therapists who offer this service in your area many spiritualist churches which are all around offer this for free as part of their vocational offerings to the divine.

12 focus your mind – think good positive thoughts, laughter, look at comedy, play good uplifting music,

13 avoid at all costs exposure to violence, murders, suffering ,death ,tragedies, -feed upon good things uplifting things, things that feel like a breath of fresh air..

14 Positive affirmation- t programme your self in the mirror , thoughts are things words are things actions are things , all have influence, few people realise these things can have an effect on themselves .

15 get a detox —— toxins can influence how you feel big time

16 hugs get plenty of them in your daily life you would be amazed at how people feel after a few decent hugs.== find a big tree and hug that.
.
17 loads of exercise running walking climbing but something which you enjoy

18 light therapy sunshine and vitamin d and ensure water intake 2 litres a day

A total cure however is tied up with karma so you can imagine just how important is the voluntary work. The more u do the better u will feel .

]]> Comment on Q&A: Black boys. Gotta love em. Flirting or culture? by Chief http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/comment-page-1/#comment-171533 Chief Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:38:58 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/#comment-171533 He is black they all play around...Don't go with him. Ashley Cole is a prime example. He is black they all play around…Don’t go with him.

Ashley Cole is a prime example.

]]> Comment on How long does it take to get diagnosed with depression/social anxiety disorder? by Lila http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171514 Lila Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:35:25 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171514 Unfortunately there is no such thing as a step-by-step program when it comes to mental diseases. Bi-Polar is a disease just like diabetes and heart disease and requires the right safe medications. It is caused by a disruption in important brain chemicals. A psychiatrist is the only specialist who can diagnose and treat you with the right medications. A good psychiatrist can usually diagnose you in one visit. You will want to make a list of all of your symptoms, how often and how they disrupt your life. Do not believe anybody who tells you that there are natural cures as they don't exist. Bi-Polar is usually an inherited disease. To find out more and get help you can go to the site nami.org which is the site for the National Alliance on Mental Illness. On their site you can find the phone number for your local chapter. They offer support, information and they have the best referrals for the help you need in your area. Anxiety usually co-exists with Bi-Polar. The decision as to which medications are right for you can only be made by a psychiatrist. With Bi-Polar you would require an antidepressant and a mood stabilizer. Possibly you will find that you don't have Bi-Polar but it is extremely important to find out. A diagnosis is pretty easy to make and doesn't require any written questions or tests. With the right medications at the right dosage you aren't even aware that you are taking them and you will have the ability to live a happy and productive life. Unfortunately there is no such thing as a step-by-step program when it comes to mental diseases. Bi-Polar is a disease just like diabetes and heart disease and requires the right safe medications. It is caused by a disruption in important brain chemicals. A psychiatrist is the only specialist who can diagnose and treat you with the right medications. A good psychiatrist can usually diagnose you in one visit. You will want to make a list of all of your symptoms, how often and how they disrupt your life. Do not believe anybody who tells you that there are natural cures as they don’t exist. Bi-Polar is usually an inherited disease. To find out more and get help you can go to the site nami.org which is the site for the National Alliance on Mental Illness. On their site you can find the phone number for your local chapter. They offer support, information and they have the best referrals for the help you need in your area. Anxiety usually co-exists with Bi-Polar. The decision as to which medications are right for you can only be made by a psychiatrist. With Bi-Polar you would require an antidepressant and a mood stabilizer. Possibly you will find that you don’t have Bi-Polar but it is extremely important to find out. A diagnosis is pretty easy to make and doesn’t require any written questions or tests. With the right medications at the right dosage you aren’t even aware that you are taking them and you will have the ability to live a happy and productive life.

]]> Comment on How long does it take to get diagnosed with depression/social anxiety disorder? by Mark Reynolds http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171513 Mark Reynolds Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:26:05 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171513 Honestly, I've never heard of a diagnosis taking that many visits. It sounds odd to me that they are that reluctant to give you a diagnosis. Just for practical reasons, I believe that they have to present your health insurance with some kind of diagnosis to get reimbursed. Honestly, I’ve never heard of a diagnosis taking that many visits. It sounds odd to me that they are that reluctant to give you a diagnosis. Just for practical reasons, I believe that they have to present your health insurance with some kind of diagnosis to get reimbursed.

]]> Comment on Q&A: Black boys. Gotta love em. Flirting or culture? by miss_mimi http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/comment-page-1/#comment-171532 miss_mimi Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:23:14 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-black-boys-gotta-love-em-flirting-or-culture/#comment-171532 its so true black guys have the most balls! and they arent afraid to hit on females i personally would keep it moving because say you guys do actually get serious ....look at how he treats his GF now...just think it could be you Its all fun and games just let him boost your ego but save the goods for someone wih more respect its so true black guys have the most balls! and they arent afraid to hit on females
i personally would keep it moving because say you guys do actually get serious ….look at how he treats his GF now…just think it could be you
Its all fun and games just let him boost your ego but save the goods for someone wih more respect

]]> Comment on How long does it take to get diagnosed with depression/social anxiety disorder? by Van Bo http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171512 Van Bo Thu, 09 Feb 2012 09:45:26 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171512 Sometimes it takes 6 months to get a psychologist, even longer for a psychiatrist. Once you see the doc, there is a series of tests, for about 6 hours, including the MMPI. It would take 2 weeks to analyze. You should have an idea about diagnosis in 4 weeks. Sometimes it takes 6 months to get a psychologist, even longer for a psychiatrist. Once you see the doc, there is a series of tests, for about 6 hours, including the MMPI. It would take 2 weeks to analyze. You should have an idea about diagnosis in 4 weeks.

]]> Comment on Will Match.com charge you a full subscription even if you cancel on the second day? by the phantom http://dittoeffect.com/will-match-com-charge-you-a-full-subscription-even-if-you-cancel-on-the-second-day/comment-page-1/#comment-171522 the phantom Thu, 09 Feb 2012 09:35:22 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/will-match-com-charge-you-a-full-subscription-even-if-you-cancel-on-the-second-day/#comment-171522 true true

]]> Comment on How long does it take to get diagnosed with depression/social anxiety disorder? by Lilith http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171511 Lilith Thu, 09 Feb 2012 09:19:25 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171511 Initial evaluation varies from place to place. Usually the first time they see you for about an hour and ask a bunch of questions. Sometimes there is a depression questionnaire that is about 15 questions and really easy. No, you cannot get psychotropic pills without going to a psychiatrist. No regular doctor in my experience is willing to do that. Major Depression is a form of depression and implies some psychotic symptoms. You probably mean that you just are really badly depressed. Luckily the meds for depression also work for social anxiety so you may just need one pill. They will start out with a lower dose and work upwards until you are better. It takes a while (at least two weeks) for the pills to kick in and work. So they will want to see you once a month until you reach a comfortable level. Then it can be less often. Initial evaluation varies from place to place. Usually the first time they see you for about an hour and ask a bunch of questions. Sometimes there is a depression questionnaire that is about 15 questions and really easy.
No, you cannot get psychotropic pills without going to a psychiatrist. No regular doctor in my experience is willing to do that.
Major Depression is a form of depression and implies some psychotic symptoms. You probably mean that you just are really badly depressed.
Luckily the meds for depression also work for social anxiety so you may just need one pill. They will start out with a lower dose and work upwards until you are better. It takes a while (at least two weeks) for the pills to kick in and work. So they will want to see you once a month until you reach a comfortable level. Then it can be less often.

]]> Comment on Why do humans fear rejection? by Sixfeettall http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171499 Sixfeettall Thu, 09 Feb 2012 09:07:56 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/#comment-171499 Because rejection feeds shame, and shame is one of the most painful emotions humans can experience. Because rejection feeds shame, and shame is one of the most painful emotions humans can experience.

]]> Comment on Why do humans fear rejection? by Brian http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171498 Brian Thu, 09 Feb 2012 09:03:52 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/#comment-171498 Because we don't want to be rejected. here's a definition from Oxford's dictionary: a person or thing dismissed as failing to meet standards or satisfy taste It's basically like this... it comes down to you sucking at life or some specific part of life. If you're perfect, you have no need to fear rejection as most people will realize your flawlessness and accept you. But, since no one is really like that, we all have flaws, which causes others to choose someone else who is not flawed in that aspect(s) they desire and we become a "reject." Being ok with being constantly looked over is called "complacency." So, what would you rather do...be complacent? or fear rejection? Simple as that. Because we don’t want to be rejected.

here’s a definition from Oxford’s dictionary:
a person or thing dismissed as failing to meet standards or satisfy taste

It’s basically like this…
it comes down to you sucking at life or some specific part of life. If you’re perfect, you have no need to fear rejection as most people will realize your flawlessness and accept you. But, since no one is really like that, we all have flaws, which causes others to choose someone else who is not flawed in that aspect(s) they desire and we become a “reject.” Being ok with being constantly looked over is called “complacency.” So, what would you rather do…be complacent? or fear rejection?

Simple as that.

]]> Comment on How long does it take to get diagnosed with depression/social anxiety disorder? by philSchmo http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171510 philSchmo Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:51:58 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-diagnosed-with-depressionsocial-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171510 They will ask you about your family history, how you have been feeling obviously. The usual are you allergic to this and that. Be prepared to tell them how you are sleeping, your eating schedule. If I were you I would want to try and get better without the pills. The pills, or at least for me, just changed me so much I wasn't myself and in some cases was worse off than I began. I was like you at first where I just wanted some magic pills to make me better. After a while I stopped taking them because I really wanted to just be myself. It is different for every person. But I'd advise to at least see what therapy can do. And take up some hobbies! Find something you enjoy doing and do it. I cannot stress this one enough because it helps immensely. Best of luck to ya! They will ask you about your family history, how you have been feeling obviously. The usual are you allergic to this and that. Be prepared to tell them how you are sleeping, your eating schedule.

If I were you I would want to try and get better without the pills. The pills, or at least for me, just changed me so much I wasn’t myself and in some cases was worse off than I began. I was like you at first where I just wanted some magic pills to make me better. After a while I stopped taking them because I really wanted to just be myself. It is different for every person. But I’d advise to at least see what therapy can do.

And take up some hobbies! Find something you enjoy doing and do it. I cannot stress this one enough because it helps immensely. Best of luck to ya!

]]> Comment on Why do humans fear rejection? by Bish http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171497 Bish Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:43:10 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/#comment-171497 Because it dents pride, damages confidence, can be embaressing. Most of all because it hurts... Because it dents pride, damages confidence, can be embaressing. Most of all because it hurts…

]]> Comment on Q&A: How well does effexor work for social anxiety? by frank h http://dittoeffect.com/qa-how-well-does-effexor-work-for-social-anxiety/comment-page-1/#comment-171481 frank h Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:41:17 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-how-well-does-effexor-work-for-social-anxiety/#comment-171481 effexor has dual effects.. on serotonin and noradrenaline (norepinephrine) mediators... especially serotonin has a great role on social anxiety.. another fact many social anxiety forms can be co-morbid with any other psychiatric disorder, particularly depressive disorders... and i think effexor has a strong effect on depression... effexor has dual effects.. on serotonin and noradrenaline (norepinephrine) mediators… especially serotonin has a great role on social anxiety.. another fact many social anxiety forms can be co-morbid with any other psychiatric disorder, particularly depressive disorders… and i think effexor has a strong effect on depression…

]]> Comment on Q&A: How well does effexor work for social anxiety? by Jess H http://dittoeffect.com/qa-how-well-does-effexor-work-for-social-anxiety/comment-page-1/#comment-171480 Jess H Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:23:38 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-how-well-does-effexor-work-for-social-anxiety/#comment-171480 I have been on Effexor for a few years now. I suffered from Social Anxiety (didn't leave my house for over a year.) Effexor has NOT caused me to gain any weight. My over-eating has. ;) And it started working in about 2 weeks for me. I can tell you that you ABSOLUTELY MUST take your medication every day. The withdrawl process is terrible. Do not quit taking the medication until your doctor has told you that you can. They will usually take you off gradually. My life is nothing like it was before. I don't feel the need to take my "emergency" meds anymore, such as Lorazepam. My sex drive took a dive, but my sleeping patterns were much better after a month of usage. GOOD LUCK! I hope this helped you! I have been on Effexor for a few years now.
I suffered from Social Anxiety (didn’t leave my house for over a year.)
Effexor has NOT caused me to gain any weight. My over-eating has. ;) And it started working in about 2 weeks for me.
I can tell you that you ABSOLUTELY MUST take your medication every day. The withdrawl process is terrible. Do not quit taking the medication until your doctor has told you that you can. They will usually take you off gradually.
My life is nothing like it was before. I don’t feel the need to take my “emergency” meds anymore, such as Lorazepam.
My sex drive took a dive, but my sleeping patterns were much better after a month of usage.
GOOD LUCK! I hope this helped you!

]]> Comment on Why do humans fear rejection? by hendrix5118 http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171496 hendrix5118 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:17:13 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/#comment-171496 The short answer: it sucks. The short answer: it sucks.

]]> Comment on Why do humans fear rejection? by rtbakkal1957 http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171495 rtbakkal1957 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:15:21 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/#comment-171495 I think it is because, even though rejection lasts only a second, the effect from the rejection. the crushing feeling, especially rejection from someone you like, can last for a very long time. It is not necesarilly the rejection that people fear, but they fear the effect it'll have on them after they are rejected. They could be crushed, that feeling lasting for years if it is a strong enough rejection. I think it is because, even though rejection lasts only a second, the effect from the rejection. the crushing feeling, especially rejection from someone you like, can last for a very long time. It is not necesarilly the rejection that people fear, but they fear the effect it’ll have on them after they are rejected. They could be crushed, that feeling lasting for years if it is a strong enough rejection.

]]> Comment on Why do humans fear rejection? by cavassi http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171494 cavassi Thu, 09 Feb 2012 07:51:24 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/why-do-humans-fear-rejection/#comment-171494 They take it personally, instead of interpreting the decision as people expressing a preference. Not everyone is going to be attracted to everyone else in the same way. They take it personally, instead of interpreting the decision as people expressing a preference. Not everyone is going to be attracted to everyone else in the same way.

]]> Comment on Q&A: How well does effexor work for social anxiety? by will s http://dittoeffect.com/qa-how-well-does-effexor-work-for-social-anxiety/comment-page-1/#comment-171479 will s Thu, 09 Feb 2012 07:28:53 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-how-well-does-effexor-work-for-social-anxiety/#comment-171479 I was on Effexor and I could not sleep. My Doctor switch me to "Klonopin" (1mg) the same that the actress "Jodi Foster" takes, but it also requires a sleep aid. I've been given "Seroquel" (!00mg) and the two have been the most successful for me out of fifteen year of suffering from "Panic Disorder". Also Klonopin can work fast and a extra one can be taken in an emergency and especially before you go to the Dentist or anything else that might cause you extra Anxiety! Will S I was on Effexor and I could not sleep. My Doctor switch me to “Klonopin” (1mg) the same that the actress “Jodi Foster” takes, but it also requires a sleep aid. I’ve been given “Seroquel” (!00mg) and the two have been the most successful for me out of fifteen year of suffering from “Panic Disorder”. Also Klonopin can work fast and a extra one can be taken in an emergency and especially before you go to the Dentist or anything else that might cause you extra Anxiety!

Will S

]]> Comment on Q&A: How well does effexor work for social anxiety? by jacko http://dittoeffect.com/qa-how-well-does-effexor-work-for-social-anxiety/comment-page-1/#comment-171478 jacko Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:53:49 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/qa-how-well-does-effexor-work-for-social-anxiety/#comment-171478 See social anxiety, and insomnia at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and see the antidepressant websites (it's used for both conditions) and www.drugs.com See social anxiety, and insomnia at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and see the antidepressant websites (it’s used for both conditions) and http://www.drugs.com

]]> Comment on How to get a shy guy to kiss you when your also shy? by kris0710 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-171376 kris0710 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:44:19 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/#comment-171376 me and my gf are both shy to but she just leaned up for a kiss and then i went the rest of the way like 20 percent of the way so take charge and kiss her me and my gf are both shy to but she just leaned up for a kiss and then i went the rest of the way like 20 percent of the way so take charge and kiss her

]]> Comment on How do I find a doctor to make an appointment for treating my social anxiety disorder? by saurabh m http://dittoeffect.com/how-do-i-find-a-doctor-to-make-an-appointment-for-treating-my-social-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171448 saurabh m Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:37:23 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-do-i-find-a-doctor-to-make-an-appointment-for-treating-my-social-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171448 Anxiety: Painful apprehensive uneasiness of mind usually over impending anticipating ill.It can b felt under diff.conditions.;when alone after eating/drinking with other physical n mental complains about financial/bznss matters/in a particular environment. Common in Young adlts Psychological Factors:As a result of failure :A fear Response Clinical Manifestations:Referable to NervousSys imbalace n commonly include palpitations,shortness of breathlessness,dryness of mouth,heaviness of head,giddiness n blurring of vision,excessive sweating particularly in palm and soles Psychological Manifestations:Irritability n a morbid fear as if something dreadful is going happen. Management: Hospitalisation-acute anxiety. Anxiolytics Yoga and meditation HOMOEOPATHY has done wonders in all type of anxiety Homoeopathic Medicines: Aur,Aur,Bry,Calc,Merc.c,Puls,Veratrum alb,Phos are used symptomatically according 2 condition of patients. Log on to www.health4all.co.in Anxiety:
Painful apprehensive uneasiness of mind
usually over impending anticipating ill.It can b felt under diff.conditions.;when alone after eating/drinking
with other physical n mental complains about financial/bznss matters/in a particular environment.

Common in Young adlts

Psychological Factors:As a result of failure
:A fear Response
Clinical Manifestations:Referable to NervousSys imbalace n commonly include palpitations,shortness of breathlessness,dryness of mouth,heaviness of head,giddiness n blurring of vision,excessive sweating particularly in palm and soles

Psychological Manifestations:Irritability n a morbid fear as if something dreadful is going happen.

Management:
Hospitalisation-acute anxiety.
Anxiolytics
Yoga and meditation

HOMOEOPATHY has done wonders in all type of anxiety

Homoeopathic Medicines:
Aur,Aur,Bry,Calc,Merc.c,Puls,Veratrum alb,Phos are used symptomatically according 2 condition of patients.
Log on to http://www.health4all.co.in

]]> Comment on How can I deal with my social anxiety while working? by sherry ;cherry ™ ? http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-i-deal-with-my-social-anxiety-while-working/comment-page-1/#comment-171443 sherry ;cherry ™ ? Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:21:24 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-i-deal-with-my-social-anxiety-while-working/#comment-171443 i think i know how you feel, my family owns a restaurant and my mom makes me help out. i'm shy (espically around strangers and people i never talk to before), just like you. and i didn't want to talk to any that i didn't know while i was helping out. but once i did it and wasn't bad and soon enough i was use to it. so just tell yourself "this isn't going to be so bad" and once you done it a couple of times you'll get use to it. look at the BRIGHT side you only have to work there for a couple of hours and soon you know it it'll be time to go home. unlike me i had to stay there for the rest of the day. and who knows you might even be able to make some friends GOOD LUCK on your first job and remember to have fun with it =] i think i know how you feel, my family owns a restaurant and my mom makes me help out. i’m shy (espically around strangers and people i never talk to before), just like you. and i didn’t want to talk to any that i didn’t know while i was helping out. but once i did it and wasn’t bad and soon enough i was use to it. so just tell yourself “this isn’t going to be so bad” and once you done it a couple of times you’ll get use to it.

look at the BRIGHT side you only have to work there for a couple of hours and soon you know it it’ll be time to go home. unlike me i had to stay there for the rest of the day. and who knows you might even be able to make some friends

GOOD LUCK
on your first job and remember to have fun with it =]

]]> Comment on How does a person get over the fear of rejection? by Jester666 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171409 Jester666 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:17:19 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/#comment-171409 I agree with thriftstorequeen..you'll never know 'till you try. Sure, people can give you tips and advice, but you will never fully understand yourself if you don't try it..yourself. I agree with thriftstorequeen..you’ll never know ’till you try.

Sure, people can give you tips and advice, but you will never fully understand yourself if you don’t try it..yourself.

]]> Comment on How do I find a doctor to make an appointment for treating my social anxiety disorder? by kaosu_kirei http://dittoeffect.com/how-do-i-find-a-doctor-to-make-an-appointment-for-treating-my-social-anxiety-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-171447 kaosu_kirei Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:01:58 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-do-i-find-a-doctor-to-make-an-appointment-for-treating-my-social-anxiety-disorder/#comment-171447 So you know. Medication RARELY helps for that disorder. I will say they gave me some Strattera in high school that did help me focus, but I still felt anxious outside of, say, testing. You have to learn to live with it, but a good therapist can definitely help you cope! First, if you have insurance, call them to see what is covered, if anything, and if there is a psychologist/psychiatrist in your area they cover. If they let you choose, the best thing to do is ask around people you know (yes, I know you have social anxiety, and this likely limits those resources). If nothing else, call different offices you look up online or in the Yellow Pages and ask whatever questions you have. You may have to "shop around". It took me four years to find a great psychologist. So you know. Medication RARELY helps for that disorder. I will say they gave me some Strattera in high school that did help me focus, but I still felt anxious outside of, say, testing. You have to learn to live with it, but a good therapist can definitely help you cope!

First, if you have insurance, call them to see what is covered, if anything, and if there is a psychologist/psychiatrist in your area they cover. If they let you choose, the best thing to do is ask around people you know (yes, I know you have social anxiety, and this likely limits those resources). If nothing else, call different offices you look up online or in the Yellow Pages and ask whatever questions you have.

You may have to “shop around”. It took me four years to find a great psychologist.

]]> Comment on How to get a shy guy to kiss you when your also shy? by vampires kick butt http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-171375 vampires kick butt Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:47:53 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/#comment-171375 well you have to stop being so damn shy. just go for it... or talk to him about it but don't plan it ,it makes the whole scene weird and awkwardif you realy want it bad you'll go for it well you have to stop being so damn shy.
just go for it…
or talk to him about it but don’t plan it ,it makes the whole scene weird and awkwardif you realy want it bad you’ll go for it

]]> Comment on How does a person get over the fear of rejection? by Common Sense http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171408 Common Sense Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:47:35 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/#comment-171408 Self confidence & sense of self-worth.. Self confidence & sense of self-worth..

]]> Comment on How can I deal with my social anxiety while working? by AnnMurder http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-i-deal-with-my-social-anxiety-while-working/comment-page-1/#comment-171442 AnnMurder Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:44:58 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-i-deal-with-my-social-anxiety-while-working/#comment-171442 kyaaa im the same way D: its sucks, but what i do i kinda dissassociate xD! not that good but hey, i just think alrighty i gatta get through this, i dont know these people, what am i having for lunch? <__< xD! and thats pretty much what i do. looking back now three years ago during my first job i used to sit and eat lunch by myself ahahhaa i was cool with it at the time and didnt really give xD! and now i guess im the same but i've been able to actually meet people. best wishes! and just think positive thoughts *salutes kyaaa im the same way D:
its sucks, but what i do i kinda dissassociate xD!
not that good but hey, i just think alrighty i gatta get through this, i dont know these people, what am i having for lunch? <__<

xD!
and thats pretty much what i do. looking back now three years ago during my first job i used to sit and eat lunch by myself ahahhaa i was cool with it at the time and didnt really give xD! and now i guess im the same but i’ve been able to actually meet people.

best wishes! and just think positive thoughts
*salutes

]]> Comment on How to get a shy guy to kiss you when your also shy? by ArnzyBarnzy! http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-171374 ArnzyBarnzy! Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:13:09 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/#comment-171374 I think that if you guys are around eachother alot you should grow to be comfortable with eachother, and if that's not that case and you two are still very shy around eachother then I say you go for it, because if the both of you are waiting to break out of your shell it just might take forever. I think that if you guys are around eachother alot you should grow to be comfortable with eachother, and if that’s not that case and you two are still very shy around eachother then I say you go for it, because if the both of you are waiting to break out of your shell it just might take forever.

]]> Comment on (For Both boys and girls:)What kind are you or what do you prefer? by x0reverie0x http://dittoeffect.com/for-both-boys-and-girlswhat-kind-are-you-or-what-do-you-prefer/comment-page-1/#comment-171422 x0reverie0x Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:51:03 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/for-both-boys-and-girlswhat-kind-are-you-or-what-do-you-prefer/#comment-171422 Well...I'd say I'd lean more to the girl-next-door type, though i would not say i was ugly! I'm not extravagant, but i won't settle for less than I deserve. Well…I’d say I’d lean more to the girl-next-door type, though i would not say i was ugly! I’m not extravagant, but i won’t settle for less than I deserve.

]]> Comment on How can I deal with my social anxiety while working? by fortheimperium2003 http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-i-deal-with-my-social-anxiety-while-working/comment-page-1/#comment-171441 fortheimperium2003 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:48:23 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-i-deal-with-my-social-anxiety-while-working/#comment-171441 Idid a career in the U.S. Army, and when you get promoted to the higher ranks, you sometimes need to give classes and briefings to large groups of people, some of whom are high ranking military and government officials. As you might guess, your 'pucker factor' gets way up there. You have teams of people reviewing all of your presentation, you go over it three or four times (It is amazing how three or four people can review a power point presentation, declare it clean and well presented, then some jerk in the back row points out in front of everyone (Generals and congressmen) that your grammar is wrong or you misspelled a word). What happened early on in my career was we would have to give a short class with a video camera rolling. We would then review it, and everyone could point out your little idiosyncrasies (looking at the floor, picking your nose, digging in your ear, etc). What might be a good idea is to do the same thing with family and friends, let them 'roast' you over stupid things you might do, and work on improving yourself. But, alas, you are going to end up doing really stupid things in front of lots of people. such is the lessons of life. Almost every time i had to stand in front of people, my heart would pound, my palms would sweat, and I would shake, even with people I knew, but once I got going, it turned out to be kind of fun (except when some jerk would 'sharp shoot' me). Just calm down, and be reassured that the people that seem 'over sociable' are over-compensating for being scared s h i t l e s s. it will be ok. Some people wont like you no matter what you do, other will accept you for who you are, even if you might seem a little 'odd'. Idid a career in the U.S. Army, and when you get promoted to the higher ranks, you sometimes need to give classes and briefings to large groups of people, some of whom are high ranking military and government officials.
As you might guess, your ‘pucker factor’ gets way up there. You have teams of people reviewing all of your presentation, you go over it three or four times (It is amazing how three or four people can review a power point presentation, declare it clean and well presented, then some jerk in the back row points out in front of everyone (Generals and congressmen) that your grammar is wrong or you misspelled a word).
What happened early on in my career was we would have to give a short class with a video camera rolling.
We would then review it, and everyone could point out your little idiosyncrasies (looking at the floor, picking your nose, digging in your ear, etc).
What might be a good idea is to do the same thing with family and friends, let them ‘roast’ you over stupid things you might do, and work on improving yourself.
But, alas, you are going to end up doing really stupid things in front of lots of people.
such is the lessons of life.
Almost every time i had to stand in front of people, my heart would pound, my palms would sweat, and I would shake, even with people I knew, but once I got going, it turned out to be kind of fun (except when some jerk would ‘sharp shoot’ me).
Just calm down, and be reassured that the people that seem ‘over sociable’ are over-compensating for being scared s h i t l e s s.
it will be ok.
Some people wont like you no matter what you do, other will accept you for who you are, even if you might seem a little ‘odd’.

]]> Comment on How does a person get over the fear of rejection? by *Froggy Lover* http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171407 *Froggy Lover* Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:48:14 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/#comment-171407 to get over it u have 2 try 2 ask them out. to get over it u have 2 try 2 ask them out.

]]> Comment on How does a person get over the fear of rejection? by Ask Alice http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171406 Ask Alice Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:40:42 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/#comment-171406 Don't put all your money down for one hand of cards. The less it means to you, the easier it'll be. If you find a guy that wont make or break your day when it comes to whether he likes you or not, go for it. If you get rejected then who cares? You didn't really like him anyway. If it works out then congratulations, but have fun telling him that you're not really interested when he falls head over heels for you. You can't have it both ways. A genuine person only goes after what they know they want, genuine people get rejected as much as anyone else, it just means more to them because they had their heart in it. Don't put all your feelings into one potential moment. The less you have invested, the less it hurts to lose. If that sounds eerily disaffected, it's because a jaded outlook isn't who you are. Stick to being genuine, it hurts but nobody said it was fun to build character. Don’t put all your money down for one hand of cards. The less it means to you, the easier it’ll be. If you find a guy that wont make or break your day when it comes to whether he likes you or not, go for it. If you get rejected then who cares? You didn’t really like him anyway. If it works out then congratulations, but have fun telling him that you’re not really interested when he falls head over heels for you.
You can’t have it both ways. A genuine person only goes after what they know they want, genuine people get rejected as much as anyone else, it just means more to them because they had their heart in it.
Don’t put all your feelings into one potential moment. The less you have invested, the less it hurts to lose. If that sounds eerily disaffected, it’s because a jaded outlook isn’t who you are. Stick to being genuine, it hurts but nobody said it was fun to build character.

]]> Comment on (For Both boys and girls:)What kind are you or what do you prefer? by SoLynn http://dittoeffect.com/for-both-boys-and-girlswhat-kind-are-you-or-what-do-you-prefer/comment-page-1/#comment-171421 SoLynn Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:37:14 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/for-both-boys-and-girlswhat-kind-are-you-or-what-do-you-prefer/#comment-171421 I would like to consider myself both. Though I model, I wouldn't say that I have the ego or confidence as a model. I am more of a tom boy but appreciate feeling like a women when I want to. Most importantly is being smart. Next would be beautiful (inside and out) feeling beautiful outwardly, regardless of others opinions. I would like to consider myself both. Though I model, I wouldn’t say that I have the ego or confidence as a model. I am more of a tom boy but appreciate feeling like a women when I want to. Most importantly is being smart. Next would be beautiful (inside and out) feeling beautiful outwardly, regardless of others opinions.

]]> Comment on How to get a shy guy to kiss you when your also shy? by Lisa S http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-171373 Lisa S Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:16:32 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/#comment-171373 since he's shy there should be less pressure.. he might be nervous to kiss you because he wont know how you are gonna react so I think you should go in for the kiss.. i'm almost 100 % positive it'll make his day..and it'll get the pressure out of the way for the 2nd 3rd..60th kiss lol since he’s shy there should be less pressure.. he might be nervous to kiss you because he wont know how you are gonna react so I think you should go in for the kiss.. i’m almost 100 % positive it’ll make his day..and it’ll get the pressure out of the way for the 2nd 3rd..60th kiss lol

]]> Comment on (For Both boys and girls:)What kind are you or what do you prefer? by vickiemay http://dittoeffect.com/for-both-boys-and-girlswhat-kind-are-you-or-what-do-you-prefer/comment-page-1/#comment-171420 vickiemay Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:07:50 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/for-both-boys-and-girlswhat-kind-are-you-or-what-do-you-prefer/#comment-171420 The grandma , all my grand kids love to come see! the Mom all my kids love to visit, the woman my man still loves to come home too I guess I am a MODEL ! The grandma , all my grand kids love to come see! the Mom all my kids love to visit, the woman my man still loves to come home too
I guess I am a MODEL !

]]> Comment on How does a person get over the fear of rejection? by Winka http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171405 Winka Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:04:33 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/#comment-171405 i can totaly understand where you are coming from; however, i concered my fear by reminding myself that i am only on earth for a short time. so, doI want to regret never going for it and missing something amazing or do i take my chances for a couple of minuets of akwardness if something goes wrong. also, I tell myself that if i dont go for what i want or express myself to the best of my abilities then no one will do it for me. their is no white knight in shinning armer thats a childhood fantasy so if i want my happy ending then i got to go for it. And plus, trust me, it turns out to be great more then it does bad. meaning, i have recieved more positive feed back then i have rejections. and the few rejections that i have recieved where never as earth shattering as i thought. go for it, you can never regret living your life to the fullest. i can totaly understand where you are coming from; however, i concered my fear by reminding myself that i am only on earth for a short time. so, doI want to regret never going for it and missing something amazing or do i take my chances for a couple of minuets of akwardness if something goes wrong. also, I tell myself that if i dont go for what i want or express myself to the best of my abilities then no one will do it for me. their is no white knight in shinning armer thats a childhood fantasy so if i want my happy ending then i got to go for it. And plus, trust me, it turns out to be great more then it does bad. meaning, i have recieved more positive feed back then i have rejections. and the few rejections that i have recieved where never as earth shattering as i thought. go for it, you can never regret living your life to the fullest.

]]> Comment on (For Both boys and girls:)What kind are you or what do you prefer? by ???I'm a fishie??? http://dittoeffect.com/for-both-boys-and-girlswhat-kind-are-you-or-what-do-you-prefer/comment-page-1/#comment-171419 ???I'm a fishie??? Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:51:14 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/for-both-boys-and-girlswhat-kind-are-you-or-what-do-you-prefer/#comment-171419 yea I'm the girl next door and I would actually prefer an athlete...right now at least because that is the type of person I am crushing on right...maybe in a couple of months it might be skater boys...as long as he can make me laugh and doesn't act like a jacka**, he cool yea I’m the girl next door and I would actually prefer an athlete…right now at least because that is the type of person I am crushing on right…maybe in a couple of months it might be skater boys…as long as he can make me laugh and doesn’t act like a jacka**, he cool

]]> Comment on How to get a shy guy to kiss you when your also shy? by Selene http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-171372 Selene Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:46:45 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/#comment-171372 I totally agree be strong and take charge and kiss him I know he won't reject you just go for it you never know till you do it. Good luck! :) I totally agree be strong and take charge and kiss him I know he won’t reject you just go for it you never know till you do it.

Good luck! :)

]]> Comment on How does a person get over the fear of rejection? by fun,fun,fun! http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171404 fun,fun,fun! Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:38:40 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/#comment-171404 look at it as its not the end of the world if someone says no and that there is someone out there who will say yes. look at it as its not the end of the world if someone says no and that there is someone out there who will say yes.

]]> Comment on How to get a shy guy to kiss you when your also shy? by IDK http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-171371 IDK Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:33:19 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/#comment-171371 dude i know how you feel and i got your back on this one. write a letter that says "shes ready for you to kiss her" sign it annoymous and send it to him by like stuffin it in his pocket when hes not looking or something or stuff it in his locker (idk how old you are) it will totally work (trust me) dude i know how you feel and i got your back on this one. write a letter that says “shes ready for you to kiss her” sign it annoymous and send it to him by like stuffin it in his pocket when hes not looking or something or stuff it in his locker (idk how old you are) it will totally work (trust me)

]]> Comment on How can I get rid of social anxiety and make friends? by splintercellgod17 http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-i-get-rid-of-social-anxiety-and-make-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-171380 splintercellgod17 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:12:32 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-can-i-get-rid-of-social-anxiety-and-make-friends/#comment-171380 I think you need to first identify the source of this social anxiety. It may be that you are feeling inferior to others, since you mentioned that you have nothing good to say. What is the reason you are feeling self conscious? Is it because the fact the you are new to this university that you are somehow "different". That is not true at all. At any university, most people are unknown to each other, and they get to know each other there, not previously. The best way to make a friend is to be a friend. Sometimes people may perceive you as being arrogant simply because you are not talking much. But act nicely and try to be funny around people. It should come from inside, not some made up small talk. You don't have to talk cliches, talk about your thoughts, your ideas. Be as open as possible, people really like that. No one wants a closed person to be around, everyone wants dynamism, spontaneity, fun. Be fun, you will like yourself more, and others will enjoy your company too (but that should be a secondary goal, your main goal should be being happy with who you are). Trust me, if you open up around people and share your thoughts, even if you fear doing so, it will be completely all right. People will like you to be honest. Everyone has a sense of humor, I am sure you do too. It can be a witty, weird, crazy, it does not matter, people will appreciate you for who you are. The best way to do all this is to join sports, or join some kind of club, or join the gym. Basically, go anywhere where there are more people, DON'T STAY ALONE. The more you stay alone, the more you will theorize about people and not know who they are, and the more needless misery you will have to endure. I think you need to first identify the source of this social anxiety. It may be that you are feeling inferior to others, since you mentioned that you have nothing good to say. What is the reason you are feeling self conscious? Is it because the fact the you are new to this university that you are somehow “different”. That is not true at all. At any university, most people are unknown to each other, and they get to know each other there, not previously.
The best way to make a friend is to be a friend. Sometimes people may perceive you as being arrogant simply because you are not talking much. But act nicely and try to be funny around people. It should come from inside, not some made up small talk. You don’t have to talk cliches, talk about your thoughts, your ideas. Be as open as possible, people really like that. No one wants a closed person to be around, everyone wants dynamism, spontaneity, fun. Be fun, you will like yourself more, and others will enjoy your company too (but that should be a secondary goal, your main goal should be being happy with who you are).
Trust me, if you open up around people and share your thoughts, even if you fear doing so, it will be completely all right. People will like you to be honest. Everyone has a sense of humor, I am sure you do too. It can be a witty, weird, crazy, it does not matter, people will appreciate you for who you are.
The best way to do all this is to join sports, or join some kind of club, or join the gym. Basically, go anywhere where there are more people, DON’T STAY ALONE. The more you stay alone, the more you will theorize about people and not know who they are, and the more needless misery you will have to endure.

]]> Comment on How does a person get over the fear of rejection? by NotreDame4Ever http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171403 NotreDame4Ever Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:09:48 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/#comment-171403 You just have to go through with things. You will face rejection in life just as everyone faces death. You just have to keep going. You just have to go through with things. You will face rejection in life just as everyone faces death. You just have to keep going.

]]> Comment on How to get a shy guy to kiss you when your also shy? by warriorfstride http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-171370 warriorfstride Thu, 09 Feb 2012 02:56:26 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/#comment-171370 You just have to pucker up and do it. I am sure he will be receptive to your kiss. You just have to pucker up and do it. I am sure he will be receptive to your kiss.

]]> Comment on How to get a shy guy to kiss you when your also shy? by Bond... David Bond http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-171369 Bond... David Bond Thu, 09 Feb 2012 02:56:25 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-to-get-a-shy-guy-to-kiss-you-when-your-also-shy/#comment-171369 just realx.. go somewhere quite and hold hands, then one thing will lead to another.. just realx.. go somewhere quite and hold hands, then one thing will lead to another..

]]> Comment on How does a person get over the fear of rejection? by MattLee http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-171402 MattLee Thu, 09 Feb 2012 02:55:27 +0000 http://dittoeffect.com/how-does-a-person-get-over-the-fear-of-rejection/#comment-171402 everyone gets rejected sometimes. so you have to realize that and just suck it up and go for it. if you get rejected at least you know they arent interested. its better to know and get rejected then not to ask and question what wouldve happened had you asked. everyone gets rejected sometimes. so you have to realize that and just suck it up and go for it. if you get rejected at least you know they arent interested. its better to know and get rejected then not to ask and question what wouldve happened had you asked.

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