We’ve all heard the fairy tales of women patiently waiting for their prince to rescue her from her tower. All she need to is go out and garden by the wishing well on her property and doubtlessly he will meander by, drawn to her beauty. Today, most women would probably be pretty creeped out by a trespasser hitting on her from the bushes. So how do women meet datable men if not by staying at home and waiting?
Girls: How to Meet Date-Able Men
Avoid Clubs - Clubs are not the greatest scene to pick up a ‘relationship’ man. Although a man that goes clubbing may be datable if met in another location, first impressions are everything. Men tend to assume there are ‘club women’ who are all simply looking for a quick physical jaunt. Though this may not be his style, if you approach him here he’ll guess it’s what yours is. It’s best to avoid this potentially inaccurate assumption.
Go Places Where Date-Able Men Are – Alright, so you love romantic comedies and your ‘stitch and bitch’ club is the bees knees. But have you ever considered your hobbies as an opportunity to meet your next romantic partner? In locations like these, probably not. Instead, explore your more masculine traits. If you like fishing, watching sports or playing pickup yourself, these are great chances to meet men who will see you stand out from ‘the guys’. More on avoiding the friend zone in these locations later.
Dispatch The Group - Number one complaint from guys trying to pick up women is the protective gaggle of girls they’re surrounded by. Yes, keeping a friend on hand as a safety net is always a good idea, but you don’t have to be holding her hand all night. Be sure to stand solo while investigating an art piece or checking out the orderves. It’s from this vantage point that you’ll be approachable.
Show The Pearly Whites - Teeth and eyes are the ultimate way of showing you’re approachable. Girls scouring and pouting, no matter how gorgeous they are, will send a man in the other direction. It’s also important not to shy away from his glance. Making eye contact from across the room only works if you can keep it up long enough to give an inviting smile. After a full 3 seconds you can then look away coyly. (Yes, it will feel awkward the first few times) Surprisingly, if eye contact is taken into consideration, women more often make the ‘first move’, not men!
Make Awkward Conversation - If you’ve got a natural conversational flow, go ahead and make regular conversation. But for the rest of us who either talk too much, too little, or are constantly grasping for topics, go ahead and be a little awkward. It is good to go into it with a few topic ideas ahead of time, but try to read the conversation and allow for some pauses. It’s better to pause and give him a chance to fill in the talking space than jabber on vacantly.
Increase Social Value - Being friendly to the people around you is always a good premise, but especially important when trying to impress a potential mate. Be sure to ask a friendly, simple “how ya doin” to servers, people on the other team, or other sports fans so he knows you could have just as easily started talking to someone else.
Display Your Interests - Make sure to have a story or an anecdote that hints towards one of your hobbies or interests. Try transitional phrases like, “you know, just the other day…”, as you would with friends. This gives him the opportunity to ask more about it, and you the chance to open up.
Discover His - Most stories have several topic lines within them. If you’ve told him about the last time you went canoeing and saw a gigantic herring, then you can ask him if he likes outdoors, canoeing, water, fishing, birding or the exact opposite (indoors, skydiving, animal rights etc). If he gives you a one-liner answer, you can ask one more probing question but then allow for a pause. If he’s interested in you he will pick the conversation back up. If he’s not, he won’t and it’s time to pretend you see your friend off in the distance.