Understanding and learning how to direct a conversation is essential in mastering how to text a girl you like. One of the big points guys often miss when learning what not to text a girl is not having the ability to lead the conversation. So many guys don’t pay attention to this simply because guys communicate in a logical manner and girls are naturally information gatherers. You may find yourself doing this even when you know better. This can be quite difficult to overcome. You will just have to be aware of it and that you are giving up power in the conversation by letting her lead the flow and responding to everything she says.
How to text a girl you like – Don’t Let Her Lead You
Have you ever noticed that people love to answer questions? Have you ever noticed that people will respond with the most relevant information to their experience when they are interacted with? Do you remember a conversation with a friend where what they said seemed so random in the conversation you were having? The mind is very goal directed. It is very question-answer based. More often than not if someone was to ask “what does a tree look like?” you will imagine a tree. The tree you picture in your mind may be different from person to person but it will be relevant to you and your memory. Hopefully my example has worked and we can now play with the idea that people are driven to answer questions.
How will this fact help you build attraction? Once you are aware of this you can start to shape you behavior at least in the context of having a conversation with someone. Learning how to direct a conversation will get you on your way to avoiding this huge common texting mistake. Here we go!
Here are a few things to keep in mind as you pay attention to who is directing the conversation:
When she sends a text with more than one question do you answer them all?
- Learn to direct the conversation by choosing which questions you respond to.
- Not answering all her questions will keep her interested and feel a need for more information.
- Choose which questions to answer and direct the conversation based on your goals.
- It is important in attraction for the man to lead and not the woman.
- It just happens to be human nature that she will cause you to follow her flow.
- Human nature gets in the way of attraction but with awareness you can get control back.
When she talks about several topics all in one text do you respond to them all?
- Maybe she will say in a text “I went shopping today and then went to the movies and out for food!” it is not uncommon for a guy to respond with something like “oh did you get anything nice? What movie did you see? Where did you go for dinner?”
- Many topics of conversation can be quite hard to follow when texting.
- Also responses like this do not provide her with the good feelings that inspire attraction.
- Instead try responding to just one topic.
- Choose the topic that you can work with best.
- Example: you could respond to the above text with “:D what did you buy me?!” or “We can’t be friends anymore if you didn’t see Inception!” or whatever else you can think of that is at least a little more exciting than just asking lots of boring questions in response.
- You will not only be able to guide the conversation topics by texting in this way but you will also avoid damaging the attraction between you by leading the flow instead of being lead.
As always play around with these ideas and become aware of how you respond to her and how she responds to you. Once you learn how to direct a conversation you will find that this will give you much more power over the conversation and avoids giving away your own power and sacrificing attraction.
Have any questions, comments or feedback about dealing with this common texting mistake feel free to leave a comment.
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NOT EVERYONE CAN LEAD YOU FUCKTARD
SOME HAVE TO FOLLOW. RETARDED TROLL!
What if there is no problem with leading the flow, but I am the one always having to start a text message session, however she always responds within a minute or less, and acts playful? Would it be a problem that I have to start the conversations? And as for frequency, how often should I text her, it just seems really hard to converse( not in the sense of writing a book via message but just talking) over messages, but we seem to talk alot when we see eachother.
Not a problem with you always starting the texting however it would be a better sign if she started it up sometimes too. Its possible she is just big on texting. Quite a few people I know always respond within 20 seconds of getting a text. Read about indicators of interest to see if she presents these when you see her.
You have to gain a feel for how she responds as you text her. If you notice the energy to the conversation start to die end it on a high note and start it up again sometime later. Personally whenever you have a good text to send (relevant to your relationship, interesting and fun, has emotional pull, ect) its usually fine to text. I often try to avoid starting up interactions when it hasn’t really been long since we talked last and I don’t have something playful to say in order to focus on having more charged and fun interactions.
Hope this helps