Are you having difficulties with learning how to text a girl you like? Then you will find this post to be a great help. Learning about and becoming aware of this principle has really helped many guys develop a greater understanding of what not to text a girl. Guys and girls naturally communicate in slightly different ways. The guys tend to more often communicate in a logical style. While girls more often communicate in a more feelings oriented style. This huge texting mistake is using too much logic in your texts.
How to Text a Girl You Like –Don’t Use Too Much Logic
Of all the other common texting mistakes, using too much logic has always caused me the most trouble. Starting out it was a big handicap on my texting game. During times when responses have not been as good as I wanted I would realize that I had been too logical in some of my texts. Being careful not to use too much logic is absolutely essential to mastering how to text a girl.
Goal: Don’t bore her with bland logical texts
Define: Logical conversations are ones that try to satisfy a goal through a boring step by step path to the solution. So the examples include: boring openers; questions that you always hear over and over; as well as overly logical attempts to set up a date.
Examples of too much logic and alternatives:
1. You – “hey, how’s it going?”
This is an example of a boring opener. Logically you are starting a conversation but you leave out any extra pull to get her to respond.
Better alternative: You – “You wouldn’t believe what you missed in class today!”
Why is it better? It uses an air of mystery in a way that involves her and draws her into the conversation. You start by providing emotional value almost in a teasing way. This will surely grab her attention much more effectively than the overly used “hey, how’s it going”.
2. Her – “I went for a scenic walk today” You – “oh that’s cool, what did you see?”
This is an example of a bland question that doesn’t add much to the interaction. The question is a logical response to her statement but is not optimized with the goal of attraction in mind.
Better alternative: Her – “I went for a scenic walk today” You – “rawr, I like adventurous girls 
”
Why is it better? It avoids asking a generic question and gives an implied compliment by qualifying her. By saying you like adventurous girls you imply she is adventurous and that you like her. From here you may have the option to tease her if she points out or questions you liking her (eg “I’d hardly call a scenic walk adventurous 
, its cute that you thought I like you though”).
3. You – “Want to go to the movies tonight?” Her – “yes!” You – “What do you want to see?” Her – “you choose ” You – “I chose last time, you choose” …
This is an example of the guy lowering his status by so coldly explaining the logical reasons why she should pick the movie after he was in a good position after she said “yes!”.
Better alternative: You – “I was thinking of taking this girl I like to the movies, she’s just like you, do you think she would want to watch (movie a) or (movie b)?”
Why is it better? Throughout the whole message you imply that the girl you are taking out is going to say yes and go with it. You leave hint at saying you like her because you are asking her a question about what you want to do with this girl you like. However you still leave space to tease her with that as well as if she declines you can play off the situation much better by just saying its too bad she couldn’t help you out with your plans for your date.
4. You – “are you busy on Friday?” Her – “not really” You – “would you like to have lunch with me?” Her – “actually I’m too busy for Friday” You – “what about Saturday for lunch?” …
This is an example of a guy who is lowering his value by trying to logically find and schedule a meet up with a girl rather than someone who knows how to ask a girl to hang out.
Better alternative: You – “I am eating at subway today around noon you should drop by, maybe you’ll run into me if you’re lucky ”
You do not ask her to do anything but you do invite her indirectly. After a response or two you should know if she will show up or not. She will be more likely to say yes and meet up with you giving you a good chance to build attraction if you ask her in a way that she will be less defensive about.
These are a few examples of texts using too much logic and some better alternatives for better results. I hope this post will help you on your way to mastering how to text a girl you like.
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These are PERFECT examples. More guys need to read this. I always recommend don’t text anything unless you have something interesting to say and then keep it short!
This is a tutorial about how to text like a gay guy.
I get the feeling that whoever wrote this article has had limited contact with girls.
The ‘better alternatives’ are terrible. As a woman myself, getting any of those responses would grant you silence in return.
in response to miss anonymous i am happy to see the first thing she says supports my claim that girls are more feelings oriented.
while i do appreciate feedback as that is the best way to learn and improve i am curious if others agree with miss anonymous’ comment.
the examples are only supposed to show that simple logical messages like “hey what’s up?” lacks so much power compared to an emotionally charged alternative and messages that drive her to want to continue the exchange.
response to nick:
if you understand attraction it won’t matter what your orientation is.
consider: are you more attracted to a girl or guy who is confident or the same girl or guy when they are really insecure and needy?
the answer should be obvious and is one simple example of how most factors of attraction boil down to a level that is unaffected by gender or sexual orientation
This is about how to be a passive aggressive creeper.
Not attractive….
would you care to elaborate on which parts were passive aggressive and why?
i may have to come back to this and come up with better examples!
the main idea is that guys often miss what a girl wants because logically she communicates that she does not want you to do something when in reality she does.
classic example: girl comes home with groceries and shouts “hi i’m home from getting groceries. what are you up to?” to which her bf replies “i’m just watching the game, would you like me to help you put everything away?” and she says in an almost sighing tone, “oh no its ok i can handle it”. when looking at the meaning you see what she really wanted where guys most often respond more logically missing out that she would appreciate the help.
pretty simple advice – pay more attention to how she communicates to understand more accurately what she wants so you may provide it.
There really is a difference between how guys and girls communicate. Trust me, the more you know about what women want and think, the happier you will be.
If you have her number then just give her a call
i don’t know man. what you say sounds nice but somehow in the same time creepy. why would anyone put that much effort in a txt! why try so hard on pleasing someone, just be yourself and either she likes it or it won’t work out and you’ll find a better match. still clever alternatives though
@ Mike
Thanks for the comment
Ideally you shouldn’t have to put effort into texting. My message is to just be yourself. Some people just don’t know how to be themselves in a way that is attractive.
Some people find dating to be quite intuitive. I personally found driving to be very intuitive however I would not recommend to a person that they just start driving without thinking about it.
It is simple enough to just learn a few useful pointers and then adapt it to your own style.
I like that you mention either she likes it or it won’t work out. I still think that you shouldn’t try to force something to happen by trying to “use” the advice i give rather than understand how it works and apply it in your own way. When things don’t work out don’t get caught up in it.
This is kinda cool it’s not so much to put effort into a text but to learn how to not put so much effort into a text it like martial art it teachs you to be prepared and disiplined when confronted not exactly what to do in every situation but an outline on being prepared maybe you insecure douches need to utilize not critisize.
Or. CALL HER and stop being a pussy