When you are trying to master the art of how to make friends you will benefit from first learning how to make new friends. You might be asking yourself “how is making a new friend any different from making friends?”. Good question!
Making new friends - making a friend with someone you haven’t met before.
Making friends - can include making new friends as well as turning an acquaintance into a friend.
There is a difference and here we are going to teach you everything you need to know about how to make new friends!
Here are some pointers on making the new friends that you’ve been looking for.
How to Make New Friends
- Don’t be afraid to talk to strangers - You are at a party and maybe you only know a few people there. Try starting a conversation with people you’ve never even met before.
- Relax and have fun - You will never find yourself having so many friends that you really like and turning down a new friend who happens to be super cool. So have relax and have fun it really makes an impression!
- Avoid being the dancing monkey - You don’t just want to be enjoyable to be around you want people to actually like you while building a strong connection. Try using a little mystery to pique their interest or apply the strategy of fractionating a response. Fractionation is a surefire way to build powerful bonds.
- Where to find friends? - Go to places and do the kinds of things that not only you enjoy but also the kinds of things the type of friend you want to meet enjoy too.
- Be persistent - While being at a party might give you the chance to make a new friend instantly it is important to note that this is not always the case. When you take part in a club, social group or activity you may find yourself needing to take a bit of time to fit into the group more comfortably. That is why it is perfect to choose activities you really enjoy because eventually you will end up making new friends without even thinking about it!
You’ve thought about the people you know for a while, and you realized you’ve befriended all the ones you think you’d get along with! Or maybe you’re new to a city and work at home, leaving you on a socially isolated island. It’s time to take the next exciting step in social mastery by approaching completely new people! Those who you have never spoken to, or even seen, before! “That’s really hard,” you say, “I’ve never been good at speaking to strangers!”
Worry no more! In fact, relax and enjoy thinking about making new friends with strangers. Imagine you’ve got a group of friends that you hang out with all the time. Things are great, and you’re enjoying your life. This is something most people aspire to be in, so congratulations if you’re in that situation! But have you ever thought to yourself: “I have so many friends that if someone cool were to come along, I’d tell them to go away and get out of my life”? Of course not. You’d be foolish to do so! This is the exact situation you will be putting everyone else in when you approach them and amaze them with your witty anecdotes, fascinating hobbies, and hilarious jokes.
Avoid being a dancing monkey with entertaining people by throwing a little mystery into the mix (pay particular attention to point Fundamentals #5! on how to be mysterious) because this helps pique people’s interest in you, as well as giving them room to speak about themselves and build a natural bond with you. There is an almost secret technique known as fractionation that truly helps deepen this bond between two people. This will really boost your ability in developing the skill of how to get a girl’s attention.
The only real question now is: where do I find people I want to be friends with? As usual, the answer is quite simple once you think about it and break it down a little bit. Just like in “how to make a friend”, you’re going to want to think about hobbies that you’re interested in and what kind of people may be interested in these hobbies.
Are you hoping to become more social? Join Toast Masters! How about a little more fit? A martial arts group is great for getting in shape and making friends! Keep this in mind when thinking about the type of people that flock to certain activities. Research has actually shown that not only your friends, but friends of friends can influence your fitness level and your habits!
Suppose you’re trying to make an activity friend, you’ll have them already set in that place from the start when you meet them specifically through that activity. But suppose you want to make a friend that you can hang out with all the time and talk to about whatever you fancy? Then you may be interested in my other article on how to build rapport.
Thank you for reading my post on how to make new friends.