For those of you still having difficulties with removing unattractive texting habits this should help you on your way to mastering how to text a girl you like. This concept is really straight forward but it always helps to look closely at the factors involved to fully understand why trying to have conversations over text is generally ineffective at building attraction. This post is about the common texting mistake of trying to have conversations over text messages.
How to Text a Girl You Like –Don’t Try to Have Conversations Over Text
Using texts to build attractions works so well mostly by using something called fractionation. Fractionation is when someone is put into an emotional state and comes out of it and each time you put them back in it is stronger than before. So in order to most efficiently employ this amazing technique we want to send short texts and focus those texts on getting her to experience an emotional state. For this reason and a few others you don’t want to be having a full conversation
As always I recommend paying extra attention to how she responds to the kinds of messages you send. Awareness and feedback allows for learning and changes to be made.
Key Points:
- Build attraction by fractionating emotional responses
- Send messages with a response value
- Minimize the work you have to do to create attraction by sending short texts
- Texting is not designed to have conversations over
- If you want to have a conversation in person or in a phone call is much better
- You don’t want her to think you just sit around texting her if she is actually doing something with her time
- Don’t forget to be aware of why you are texting
- She is not just a friend you are going to casually chat with if you just met
- You want her to like you the same way you like her
- In general you will display higher value by using short and flirty texts
- Having a conversation over texts may display a neediness and approval seeking
It may seem like there are times when it is not such a bad thing to have conversations over text. For example what if it seems like she is already into you and wants to text a lot? For all you know this could be her neediness for attention and that could be something you are not looking for in a girl. She might want your attention which by giving it up so easily and showing you have lots of time to text her may cause her to lose interest since she doesn’t have to work for it at that point. If someone likes something even a little once you pull it away and make it scarce the person will go crazy for it. If the cat wants the string and you pull the string the cat will chase it, but if the cat does not want to string pulling it away does nothing.
Hopefully this post has helped you reach a better understanding of this common texting mistake and how to avoid it while building intense attraction.
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I recently met an extremely attractive girl and she gave me her number without me even asking for it. I’ve sent her several text over the last few days, and it went pretty well at first. I stuck to the (ditto effect) rules in the beginning, but i have caught myself trying to make conversation out of texting, and now I can get the filling that I’m losing the initial attraction she had for me. I want to call her, but I just don’t know her well enough yet, and I think she might think that I’m trying way to hard if I call her now. I don’t know what to do at this point though, bc her responses are extremely short and boring, therefore I don’t really know what it is that interest her. Should I ask her through text if it’s okay for me to call her? Any suggestions how to word that text?
Thank you for sharing your comment.
This post about how to get her to text back may help give you some idea’s of what could work for you.
You want to be the one leading the conversation and doing so on your own terms. So to answer your question about asking if it is okay to call. I would recommend if you feel comfortable with calling choose a time when she would likely be free say sometime between 9pm and 10pm most people would be at home cooling down after their day for example. When you make this call you want to lead in with a time restriction so she feels comfortable with continuing the call and you have control of when its going to end. So you could start with “Hey, I just had a few minutes before I was about to start watching a movie with a friend so I thought i’d take this opportunity to make you laugh before I go.” Then you can say something witty or funny that may be related to your interactions with each other. ideally you want to get a good reaction and create positive emotion for you to share. Then You will be able to say its time for you to go so she can get back to whatever less exciting thing she was up to before you called.
Calling a girl without dragging on the convo as well as providing positive emotion can leave her wanting more. She may be lost as to why you only made her happy without asking for anything in return as well as not sticking around like she is your world. You avoid looking obsessed while creating spike of enjoyment leaving her thinking about you, the source, has left a void of her wanting more.
Hope this helps. Feel free to ask more questions and share more feedback.
This is only a quick response so if anything isn’t clear I’d be happy to do my best to clairify.
Don’t forget to check out that post on how to get her to text back you may find the topic of emotional value to be a very powerful concept worth understanding.
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