Have you ever received annoying one word texts that just killed the conversation or left you unmotivated to respond?
One of the most fundamental principles in how to text a girl you like is being able to avoid sending unnecessary texts. Unfortunately I had no idea I used to send unnecessary texts all the time. I never stopped to think that how you say what you want to say makes such a huge difference on the responses you get. This post is about how and why to stop sending unnecessary one word texts.
Imagine a beautiful, interesting and intelligent girl recently just gave you her number. You managed to charm her with your quick wit and semi awkward smile so she thinks you are cute. She ends up texting you because you made such a good lasting impression in her mind. She playfully texts you “a Buddhist goes up to a hot dog vendor and says ‘make me one with everything’” and you casually reply “lol”.
That’s the end of that story.
My Story:
I always hated sending a funny text or long message just to get a “lol” in response. Eventually as I gained dating experience I would no longer settle for just talking with a girl I liked, I wanted to have powerful conversations that would keep me inspired and happy all day long. With this I started to notice more often how texting would almost always end when the flow was broken by dull unnecessary texts that fade out of memory as you continue on with your day to day life.
Now that I knew what it felt like when I really wanted to talk to someone but even just one of these conversation killers started to make interactions take more effort while being less rewarding. On top of this I started to notice not only did I also do this from time to time I had also done it much more in the past. Now that I cut out the common texting mistake of sending unnecessary text messages I have noticed significant improvements in my dating life and I hope you will too.
Note: Continue reading for examples as well as vital points to be aware of.
Types of unnecessary texts:
Boring Confirmations – A quick and easy confirmation often not worth responding to.
Lame Negatives – Alone these are often big conversation killers.
Vague Confirmations – Hinting towards indifference by agreeing with words that hold an air of uncertainty.
Empty Response – Often shows itself in the form of a one word answer that doesn’t add to the conversation.
Empty Laughter – Laughing takes place in person not in texts.
Empty conversation – Attempts to get the other person to be more interesting. (this is quite the conversation killer)
Empty Starters – Just trying to start a conversation and get a reaction without having much to say.
The Three Dots – The dreaded “…” is often used as a sign of frustration or dissatisfaction. “So you are hanging out with your friends again tonight…?”
Smilies – When someone is sending just smilies or just smilies with any of the other conversation killers. Someone who sends smilies may be too busy to talk or just not have much to say. Smilies can be really great. There is a fine line between using smilies properly and as a conversation killer.
Examples:
- Boring Confirmations: Ok, k, okay, kk, mhm, mmk, ya, yes, good
- Lame Negatives: idk (i don’t know), idc (i don’t care), nope, w/e, huh, maybe
- Vague Confirmations: sure, fine
- Empty Response: Wow, cool, nice, omg
- Empty Laughter: lol, ha, haha, rofl
- Empty Conversation: so, um, ah, er, oh
- Empty Starters: Hey, what’s up?, Hey how are you?, Yo, Hey
- The Three Dots: “…” after anything!
- Smilies: Just smilies
, smilies combined with any of the above
Loading ...Note: Keep in mind a lot of these examples become much more acceptable when coupled with more attractive responses in the same text or a second text right after.
Eg. “Omg, That same thing happened to me last week! So what happened next?”
Eg. “I just saw an old couple knitting and couldn’t help but smile and think of you. How’s it going?”
Great stuff so far but what do I do with it?!
- Don’t start texting without a purpose! (providing value, questions, communication point)
- Obviously when you should respond any of the above is better than not responding.
- Become aware of when you do any of the above if you do.
- When she sends a quality message respond with more than one word.
- Avoid sending texts at ridiculous times. (aka responding at 4am if she texted you at 6pm)
- Test the waters. Pay attention to specific kinds of texts different girls don’t respond well to. While the above is a very good standard to follow everyone is different.
Why can’t I just send whatever I feel like? She should like me for me!
Hopefully the best answer to this is to pay close attention to how you feel when a girl sends you these kinds of responses. It is almost always a conversation killer and turns you off by having to put in more than you get back to maintain it. You will be saying the same thing you want to say just simply presented in a more appealing way that is more enjoyable for everyone involved!
While this post may seem quite simple the advice is timeless and incredibly useful. I found this to be very useful when learning how to text a girl you like. I hope you find it useful too.
Thank you for reading my post on what not to text a girl.
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That’s funny one!
Totally lame.
If I send a text asking about the night’s plans , I want an answer.
I don’t want some lame lengthy creative cutesy crap.
“Hey, meet up @ FD’s for drinks tonite?”
Sure, great, ok, and cool are all GOOD answers.
Maybe if you’re only dating high school chicks with nothing better to do than exchange long meaningless texts all day.
@kit
Thanks for the comment. I’m sure there are a lot of people who would agree with what you said including myself. When you want those kinds of answers they are completely reasonable. If you were to send your bf texts about your day or something really important to you and each of his responses are lol or
or 
is that going to engage you the way you want?
“Hey, meet up @ FD’s for drinks tonite?” is a great text for so many reasons. I’m not going to get into it but that is exactly the kind of example this post would suggest a guy send.
The idea is don’t be boring and lame by ignoring what she wants.
This may seem like i am a pussy b/c im pretty much really nervous. Just tell me if i should text this girl again, please. I used to tslk to this girl in high school then stopped after she said she already had a date to prom. I didnt stop because she declined my invitation i just graduated and didnt know what to say. I have always liked her Alot but have never knew what to say. Whould it be weird texting her a year later? Please help
Hey man, its not weird if you don’t make it weird.
Have something good to say like an old inside joke or at the very least just checking to see if its still her number and get things started that way.
To be honest without being confident in what you are doing I would usually recommend to get yourself to that confident position before you run around flailing just hoping for what you want to fall into your lap. There are a lot of good tips on what kinds of messages to send to her in this post and a few others.
I don’t think it has to be weird to text her after so long. Say something like “I used to know a cute girl who had this number”.
hope this helps.